Thursday, 19 August 2010 13:00
I guess lots of new people will be coming to Nanjing in the next few weeks. Some with a purpose, others with a hope.
When I first came to Nanjing, I met a girl in a bar who asked me: "So what is it that you're running away from?"
I told her that it was a strange question. I wasn't running away from anything. In fact, I was deliberately moving forwards (to certain life goals). That challenge had brought me to Nanjing.
We got on to talking about her challenges and objectives. She came to teach "for a year or so", and didn't have any other purpose, it seemed, other than to chill out and not stress about things.
That inspired me to tell her a story:
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Once upon a time a traveler walked along a beach. It was a sheltered cove with calm clear water.
From the banks, he could see coral in the water. There was a lot of it, mostly a soft greyish color, with the odd splash of bright blue and orange.
He walked over a hill and then came to another beach. This one was unsheltered and rocky. Huge waves crashed onto the rocks.
The traveler spent thirty minutes climbing the rocks and listening to the waves. Then, he noticed more coral in the water.

These were different though, they were brilliant: vivid hues of blue, green, red and yellow.
He squatted on a rock and stared at the coral, and then the sun began to set. He walked back to the beach. There, he saw a fisherman dragging his nets home.
They chatted for a few minutes, and then the traveler asked about the coral.
"Are those two different species? The ones on this beach are so vividly colored, but the ones on the calm beach are so dull in comparison."
The fisherman lit a smoke and then offered one to the traveler. "No, they are the same species." He waved a hand towards the crashing waves.
"That's what bring out the color. These coral here, they need to fight to survive, the surf is very choppy here."
He stuck out his chin towards the calm bay. "But those coral over there, the water is calm, it's the challenge to survive when the brightest colors come out."
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To those who are new, welcome to Nanjing. If you rise to the challenge, I hope that you get what you came here for.





Walking into an elevator: this is a singluar action. Walking into an elevator while someone else is walking out requires a person to think about two things at once. If a person can't do that, they will likely just bull their way through.
A few years ago, I was island-hopping in southern Thailand. On Ko Pha Ngan island, I came across a secluded beach well away from the crowds. The entire beach was owned by a single family. They spoke English well and were very chilled out. So, I ended up staying there for a week, doing little else except for puffing fatheads and piddling around the beach.
'Nate' was bored in America. He had a lousy job, passive aggressive bosses and a low salary. He spent his evenings and weekends either watching TV or else walking around shopping malls.
Every Saturday Nate would end up at Castle Bar. Every time he walked out of that bar, it was daylight. He would eat some McDonald’s and then spend the rest of the day in bed.
After a while, Nate noticed that a lot of the people who he thought were ‘friends’ didn’t even know his last name. Then he noticed that people didn’t really listen to him. Rather, they would just wait for him to finish talking, so they could keep talking about themselves. 
